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Originally Posted by hunniebunnie anyone not planning to have children?
hubby and i are at a point in our lives when we're getting constant pressure from the would-be grandparents to have kids. (nothing like an otherwise sane mother-in-law constantly reminding me that i'm no spring chicken). but we're seriously considering not having kids at all.
anyone not planned/decided not to have kids? ever? |
My husband and I have been married for 20 years this June, and no children...after awhile, the "grandparents" just stop asking!
When we were married about 5 years we decided to try but after a couple more years when nothing happened went to see the fertility specialist. Turned out our "difficulty" was treatable, and the doc started making plans to move forward...I remember sitting in the dr's office and saying "wait", I want to discuss all of this with my husband first (of course, he was sitting right there at the time, but I wanted to talk with him alone). At this point we had been married 7 years without kids, we had a great relationship (still do) and I just wasn't sure I wanted to push the issue. Surprise! Husband felt the same way. So we decided to table the thought and revisit the idea of having kids if and when either of us decided it was something we really wanted to do.
What we didn't want to do was have children just because it was "the thing to do" or was "expected of us".
It was a little lonely for awhile when EVERYONE WE KNEW seemed to be running around after little ones, but we've managed to find several friends who also don't have any children, (there are a lot of us out there). But if you're in your late 20's - early 30's it will seem for awhile that you're the only ones without children!
Have children if that's what you both want to do, but if not, you are not alone!