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Originally Posted by hunniebunnie yeah i have had a chat with the mother in law already. besides it's her son that's really really really not wanting to have kids. i'm on the fence about it. but her attitude is kinda like we're just a couple of kids who don't know what's good for us.
i told her if she really wants us to have kids then she'll have to talk my husband into it because he's the real bottle neck. but she feels that it's my responsibility to talk him into it. and i'm like, i can't talk him into something that i don't know if i buy myself. and i refuse to be a married but otherwise single mother with an unwilling father. parents ... can't live with 'em. can't kill 'em.  |
Well, you BOTH have to want the child, this is VERY important. A pregnancy is NOT something that should happen just to make someone happy. How old are you? If you are young, you still have a while to decide, a lady just had a baby at 64 recently. There is no rush on these things.
I will tell you this though. My son is my whole world. I don't even want to think about what my life was like before I had him. He changed my whole life and I feel like I've come full circle. He is my reason for living now. Children are such a special love that is different than any other. Whatever choice you make is up to you and your husband. You two definately need to talk it out. I hope that he warned you before you two got married that he never wanted kids.