Oh, a parent's worst nightmare!
I've done plenty of that to my parents when I was in highschool (I'm now 27).
I wasn't a "bad" kid but just didn't feel motivated to do anything. While my friends were cramping down the latest lessons and tests, I had my butt planted on our quad, "chillin'". It wasn't until my freshman year in college that I realized that I NEEDED to get motivated or nothing would happen for me.
I know it's very very hard to see them that way. I'd suggest not to overreact (shouting, yelling, throwing things...all the things I did to my parents). Invite her to an outing (coffee house) and chat with her. Or, do something with her (shopping!). That way, you have a chance to ask her what's going on without her going immediately into her defense mode, which I often did when we're at home.
If she was a good student before, I'm sure with a little coaching (not pushing..lol), she'd come around.
Good luck there!!
Kathy |