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Originally Posted by Tashasmom NO you didn't directly point your finger at me. But you more or less said it just the same.
Instead of guessing why some parents do or accusing..why don't you just ask? Ask me why my oldest slept with me..ask me why my youngest does. Don't just assume I am a bad parent. Just cause the majority puts their child in their own bed does that mean they are all good parents. NO i think not.
I was 17 when I had my first. I was young with no dad or anyone for that matter. He wanted to sleep with me so i let him.
My youngest when we first adopted him he had to be tested for devolopmental delayment along with other things. He also bout died when he was 2. He had a rough two years..we put him in bed with us because we were afraid he would have an asthma attack and stop breathing. He was in the hospital more than he wasn't..so now do you really think that makes me bad or him a bad child? If you do thats fine. My husband and I enjoy our kids enjoy being parents thats what matters to us. |
Dear Tashasmom,
It's quite sad to read about your child's condition. I'm sorry it happened to you. We do not mean to point at you and say "because of this...you're a bad parent". Of course, everyone has their own situations to deal with. In your case, it was a difficult one.
In general, most parents are not like you. Parents that are "lazy", they are the ones who ruined and put a bad name for you. Unfortunately, you're in a small population. The lazy parents we're referring belong in the larger population where we DO see them more often.
To say by allowing a child to sleep in the same bed with the parents is a bad behavior isn't wrong either. It is a start of other bad behaviors IF you let it continue and expand into other areas of their lives. I mean, every child (and myself, I remember) will have bad behaviors. That's why people are not perfect. But, if a good parent, like yourself, can and able to correct and minimize those bad behaviors, you're doing a good job.
I hope you're not offended by what people are saying. It's just we all have seen too many bad parenting out there.
Kathy