Originally Posted by Toby'sMama Just to give you a little background -- I had a little female for 17 years. From day one, she was my little snuggler -- and was never happier than when I was holding her. Don't get me wrong, she was a very social dog, and went to other people, but I could always pick her up and just snuggle. After Sneaker was gone, I finally decided to get another yorkie. I got chosen by my Toby. Didn't really want a male, but everyone I'd talked to told me how loveable and snuggly they were. First night home -- Toby was curled up, sleeping on the bed and looking oh-so-cute, I just had to give him a little pet. That dog (8 weeks old) got up... stomped to the end of the bed... and plopped down -- letting me know, in no uncertain terms, that he didn't appreciate me at all. I was crushed. As he got older, he was still very independent -- and when I picked him up, he was constantly wanting to get down and run around, and the only real time that I got snuggles was when he was so tired that he would just fall asleep in my arms. Now, he was always giving me little kisses, and happy to see me when I'd been gone, but just didn't want to "snuggle." So, I learned to just give him his space, and he would come to me when he felt like it. And it really works. He still doesn't snuggle like Sneaker did, but he is definitely affectionate -- as long as it's on his terms. Now, all I have to do is ask him for a kiss -- and he will give me one. But the best one is, now I ask him for a hug and he will lay his head down on my shoulder for his version of a hug. Sorry to be so long-winded, but I just wanted to let you know what worked for me. Give your baby some space -- but give him lots of attention. Give him little treats, play with him, and enjoy the time he does give you. Eventually, it'll pay off and you will definitely get your "lovin time" from him. Just let him do it at his pace...
Good luck... |