As others have posted, eloquently, we all grieve differently...and we can never (nor would want to) "replace" one of our beloved companions. I have always chosen to open my heart to a new little one as a way to celebrate the love that I have shared with each of my special companions. I still have had to do the very hard work of grieving, the loss (we all know the feeling that we hear those tags on their collar jingling, or look at he spot where they liked to lay in the sun expecting to see them there). The tears will still flow, at a memory, or the stark fact that they are not there waiting for breakfast first thing in the morning. But the new little one will be there urging you to play, or wanting to cuddle, and the pain is softened.
Just as I was able to love each of my wonderful, unique children...and my amazing, quirky grandchildren...I have been able to love each of my sweet fur babies for who they were/are. Each has their own personality, and that is amazing! I sometimes have chosen to bring in a new little one who was very different in looks when the loss was fresh. That is how we added our beloved 4 lb. poodle, Beau. I knew it would not be good to have another yorkie after the loss of my first yorkie, Elmo. Later I chose to get Tyrone, a parti, when we lost our tan/gold boy Ozzie.
I believe there are two distinct styles of grieving when it comes to thinking about another baby, and I respect both approaches. Some truly need the time to pass in order to feel that they have come to peace with their loss. If you are even thinking of a new little one, I believe you may be like me. I can testify that there is not one of my little ones that are not still fondly remembered often, but that has never hindered my ability to love and take comfort in the companionship of a new, unique little one!
May you find peace, and the right answer for you as you deal with your grief during this difficult time. (((hugs))) |