I am so sad to see the pain that has come out of this situation. Each of us can be desperate when we are concerned that our little ones are in pain, or need help. When we ask for help on this forum, I know that we are reaching out for information and/or opinions from others that we trust to have our companion's best interests at heart. Unfortunately, sometimes we all can question the judgement of those who are seeking help if we do not agree with their thinking. Even though this is done out of concern and a true wish to help, it can be taken as an attack at a time when we are most uncertain ourselves. That can lead to unwarranted hurt...and angry reactions.
Unfortunately, I have had times when I felt confused and helpless when seeking answers to treating not only my beloved furkids...but also when I was desperately evaluating treatment models for a potentially life-threatening genetic condition inherited by my children. Many loving people reached out with opinions, all of them worthy of consideration, but my husband and I had to ultimately decide...and own that decision. Luckily, we made the choice which resulted in my children growing into healthy adults (although there were many challenges along the way)...but our choices were questioned
and challenged by those closest to us, and it caused us tremendous pain.
I believe that everyone who comes to this forum truly has the best intentions, and I have been fortunate to make some true connections with several members...and I appreciate all of our interactions! It is my wish that everyone can take a breath and recognize that sometimes our zeal may be misconstrued as unfair criticism... and sometimes our hurt feelings may lead us to wound others. Hopefully we can heal, with time, and refocus on how blessed we are to share the love of our truly remarkable little companions. My heart aches for all of the obvious pain in this thread, and I offer my support to each of you! (((hugs))) |