Thank you yorkietalkjilly for taking the time again to write two long posts, I really appreciate it and all the other advice received here. There is always something new to learn. Thank you also for the well wishes for my partner, he certainly needs them.
Last night I had Jake next to my bed in his crate. At first he started to whine and I said “no Jake” and he immediately settled down for the night. Around 5 am he started to stir so I took him outside for a little while. His crate was clean. Back to my bedroom he’s now cuddled up against my legs
I will probably miss Jake more than he will miss me, I will take a lot of the advice given and certainly leave some of my used clothing to sleep on. I really hate leaving him behind though, I’m a born worrier!