Thank you so much for your responses. I heard about the bitter apple spray, i will definetely get it this weekend. I don't know what else to try. I would love to have her sleep with us, but i think its improtant for her to have her own place, plus she is a very light sleeper, so if one of us gets up to use the bathroom or get a drink of water, she will wake up the other.
I just don't know what to do and i feel liek whatever i do is wrong...