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Originally Posted by trewltwisted  Hi everyone  I'm pretty new to the forum, mostly I read. I didn't read the entire discussion, so I apologize if someone already said this.
What I see happening, where things tend to get nasty, is usually where someone is asking about breeding, a pregnant dog, or an injured/sick animal and they can't afford to go the vet or are not sure if they should.
I have three dogs. And with each dog I have learned a lot. My first dog came from a pet store, and has very little social skills and horrible allergies. Second dog came from a BYB, she is socialized but not nearly as much as my new baby who I got from a good breeder. With each dog, I have learned more and more.
There are a LOT of people who truly love their babies, but are learning. Just like we all have. If we want to educate people, it needs to be done in a caring manner. Not condescending. Offer up your experience, but know that sometimes people are not going to "get" it.
Hope you all have a splendiferous day |
Usually that happens when someone comes here wanting someone to diagnose and treat their pet. We all refuse to do it and the person throws a fit. Then a certain group will throw a hissy fit and act like the poor person who is clearly not wanting the right advice is being treated badly.
Most of the time people on this forum are very helpful.
I personally will never, ever not tell someone that they are killing their pet if that is what they are doing.
Some people don't get it, but unfortunately many don't want to get it.
There is a fine line here....there are people on this forum who call people "good mommy" when the person is clearly neglecting their pet....and there are people who say it as it is. Then, the eruption inevitably happens. Personally, I would rather someone tell me the truth than to sugar coat.
It isn't about a person not being able to afford....it is the unwillingness to do that bothers me.