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How old is this fur kiddo? And is this peeing all over thing new...? If it's new, and if there is copious amounts of pee, then there is something medical going on here which can be *solved*. She should possibly be checked for Cushings and Diabetes and have a urinalysis. Read about Cushings here:
Cushing's Disease Summary | Long Beach Animal Hospital
But I have to also ask...has your wife disconnected from this dog, emotionally? Bc it kind of sounds that way. If yes, I'd be asking/wondering why/how?