When one of my best friends had her wedding/shower/bachelorette/etc I was surprised that many girls who weren't asked to be bridesmaids were included in the festivities. Maybe there is still a chance and that she will invite you to some of them. Although if she doesn't and you find out she did invite others were aren't in the official bridal party, I'd be pretty pissed.
I would think the picking out the dress is more of a family and maid of honor thing, no? But the bachelorette party, usually the more the better bc more people to spread out the costs. (Sorry, all I see is how much everything costs LOL)
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