I understand the struggle. You can try using medical gauze (the white bandage type that has a little roughness to it) wrapped around your finger. It's good for gently massaging the gums and gumline where tartar begins to accumulate.
Use a yummy toothpaste too. My boys like the CET poultry and vanilla mint (I think that is what it is).
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