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Originally Posted by maxdog  I am about to upset a few people here but I have to say what I feel. I know that every person on this board loves their dogs and wants nothing but the best for their furbabies and every one else's furbabies. When posts like this are made a lot of folks first thoughts are this could have and should have been prevented. But people come here for help, not to be told they made a mistake. They already know that or they would not be here asking for help. I read the responses on this board and I am amazed at the knowledge here. But when someone comes here and asks for help and what they receive is criticism, they are going to go away and all the good that can be done through YT is lost. PLEASE keep this in mind when responding to people asking for help. I know that the well being of our furbaby is always the # 1 priority of everyone here but we must be aware of how we dole out this help. After the collective knowledge of all the wonderful people here has helped someone get through a tough situation, then let them know how the situation may have been avoided. In a perfect world no one would need help, but YT is here because ours is not a perfect world.
One last word from my soap box. PM is short for PRIVATE message.
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In my OWN defense, I did not tell this person they made a mistake with the breeding of this dog. She asked for help and advice, and I gave her exactly what she asked for.......I strongly recommended she get hands on help....a crash course in breeding and whelping yorkies 101-999, on the internet, over several weeks, is NOT what this person
needed to hear.
As far as the second bolded statement, I am totally befuddled why everyone seems to think when someone hears the truth, hears the facts of the situation they are in, just because they dont like the "tone" of the facts as given to them, they are going to flee and run to some obscure dark corner, head buried in their hands, and never seek help again!!! I have NO doubt there are many adults or even mature individuals out there that while they may not like the advice they are given, or do not like the facts as they are given to them, or do not like the "tone" of the delivery as it is given to them, they really do have enough intelligence and intestinal fortitude to get angry if they want, but then they will seek
valid advice and help from other sources...say, A VET, or a VET TECH....
anyone that can give them
hands on guidance and help with what is about to transpire.
Whelping a litter is not like baking a cake....you can not sit there with a computer tuned onto a site, read step one, do what it says, read step two, do as it says, read step three, do what is said, etc, etc......you have to know what you are doing when you are delivering live animals....during the middle of the whelp, THAT is NOT the time to be learning what to do! You do NOT jump into deep water then realize you do not know how to swim!!! If those are facts and truths that mature people are not able to understand or benefit from, and hearing them drives them into a dark hole never seeking help again, perhaps their frame of reference is too shallow and they required hearing the truth so they COULD learn. I guess I give individuals more credit for accepting responsibility for their actions, and more credit on how they deal with and correct the situations they find themselves in.
Here is an idea for you....if you find you have let your pet get bred, and you know full well you have no idea what in the world you are doing, you have 60 days to learn!! Go to your vet and BEG them to let you watch a whelp...put an ad in the newspaper and beg someone that is about to have puppies, to allow you to watch....in the meantime, read good, valid books, articles, etc on whelping and what to expect before, during and AFTER the babies are born. Watch videos on whelping so you know what you are even LOOKING at.... Know how to rear orphaned puppies. Know how to deal with eclampsia in your momma so that she doesnt die while you are trying to figure out why she is stiff legged and trembling. Know about mastitis in your momma.....know about failure to thrive babies and what to do about it....have supplies on hand to deal with the situation IF it occurs.....dont wait until you are up to your neck in alligators before you decide to drain the swamp. Be prepared financially for emergency vet care...c-sections, sick pups, etc.....you can NOT sit and watch your momma die along with her litter, because you can not afford a $2500.00 emergency c-section in the middle of the night.
THESE are all facts and truths....honest, precise, no sugar coating, maybe even brutal....but it is reality for breeders.....