Totally agree with everyone else....
It's strange, because Harry used to sleep very peacefully and happily in his (huge!) crate in our bedroom...and then, at about the same age as your little one, he started the crying/shrieking/digging performance that you're going through.
So we decided to try him on our bed with us (not the crate, though
) - and we've never, ever looked back. He curls up and goes to sleep when we do - and he wakes up when we do, be it 6.30 during the week, or 10 a.m. weekends
Is there a reason that she's not allowed to be in your room?