[matese]

Your little male showing signs of fear knows he will get picked up and cuddled, he could be doing this for extra attention. Female resents the extra attention the male gets, says, hey, what about me. I would start showing the female more attention, instead of taking the male to bed, take the female first, then get the male, show the female she is #1, just do it as a test for a week or so, see how her attitude is. Neither dog you be # 1, you should be the alpha. If they were my pups i would do what I have suggested to you, just to see how the female reacts. I had 3 females, all 3 years apart, never a fight, no jealousy, two older ones were not spayed, the youngest one was.