[chickensmith]

The only experience even close to this I've have was with a kitten someone found in their bushes.....they didn't want to try to keep it so we nursed it at the office and I took it home at night.....it was a very looooong nursing period and after a few weeks we did find a home for her....but she was returned to us nearly dead...so we kept her at the office a while longer. I did wind up bringing her home with me permanently until we found her a home when he was old enough....all that being said it does sound very odd the things that happened at this vet....and I think you are completely justified in getting a second opinion....I can't wait to hear what they have to say! And I personally think that you are doing a great job at the moment....sounds like mama is inexperienced to say the least....but seems to have gotten the hang of it. Our own cat had one kitten in November and I had to help her at first because she just didn't have all the instincts yet....but once she caught on it was good. Sounds like this is what has happened with your girl.