One of the lessons I've had to learn the hard way: When you do let him know that it over, block his numbers. Do not ever reply to a phonecall, text or message. Once you break down and respond to him, he will see that as a crack in the wall and start to work on it.
I tried to end it nicely with someone once. I didn't want to hurt his feelings. There is now over 20 years of police reports, threats, poisoned pets, vandalized vehicles - two moves and a new car later, I am still running from him. The police told me that most women end up with stalkers because they're too nice. Break up with him the same way you would rip off a bandaid. Be polite but firm. Take a friend if you need to. Be careful. Oh, and never let your guard down. Start watching for him to show up in strange places or following you. I don't want to cause a panic, but I'd rather you be a little bit paranoid than dead.
It's a scary, scary world out there. Just watch your back. I'll be thinking of you. |