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When I was married to my abusive husband, he would say horrible things to me, then say he didn't mean it, forgive me and I did. For each time this happened, the verbal, mental, emotional, physical abuse got worse, my forgiving him to him was a sign I was weak, reason for the continued harsher abuse. I had the better education, the better job, higher salary then him. He was very controlling, I couldn't have any friends, if I was talking on the phone with a co-worker friend he would disconnect the call, tell me I was on the phone long enough. Back in those days lol, the was no such word as "abusive, controlling, low esteem husband". It was years after I left him married women had rights against abusive husbands. I didn't know I was being controlled lol, after leaving the marriage, abused married women now having shelters for battered women, I realized I had been married to a man that had low esteem for his lack of education, and low paying job, this he took out on me. Thank god I had no children with him. Tell this man you will NOT meet up with him, and YES, block his number, have nothing to do with him. Him saying he LOVES you is just a PLOY to get you back, he knows the word LOVE is what women want to hear, if you forgive he will take this as a sign of weakness, the verbal abuse will escalate, 3 months of a relationship is nothing. He is showing early signs of no self esteem, no respect for woman. Stop it now. Have no contact with him, no text, no chat, NOTHING. Put it behind you as a learning experience. There are fine men out there, that will respect you as a woman, this man does not. All the RED FLAGS are up. (((HUGS))) Move on.