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Originally Posted by maddieluca  I don't know if I'm crazy but with my first pup I felt immediately attached to. But the second pup I got a few months ago, I'm not feeling the same way. They're different and I should expect that I should feel differently, but I almost want different dog. I don't even think I'd Miss him too much if I gave him away!
Doesn't that sound a bit cold? But for some reason, my heart's not going there.
Have any of you felt the same way? |
Allright no judgement here, and so glad you are honestly sharing your feelings.
First of all, don't expect to *feel differently*, I know that you do and I believe you, and it is what it is; but the question you ask yourself is why do I feel differently? Your answer is what-ever it is.
Now I will share, that I bond differently with each dog. And when you have multiple dogs, the second dog owned, has to hoe a different road. A different road to your heart. And you have to give a different way in.
He/she will always be different to the first who captured your heart. And bonding doesn't happen (usually) overnight, especially with a second dog. You see, you consciously or un-consciously have the expectations for your second dog to live up to your first dog.
I think you should give yourself and your new puppy a true chance. Have you worked on your relationship with your second dog? Took him in your car, walked him separately, played with him separately, set him on your lap, looked deep into his eyes, watched him move and play, and tried to understand what makes his little heart tick? Have you massaged him all over? Tickled him pink, played with his feet, and snuggled him close to you? Have you treated him as
you did your first dog???
To bond with a second dog, is quite frankly different to the first. You have all this *other stuff* going on. Introducing new pup to current dog, making sure they interact safely with each other. You now have multiple responsibilities that are just now penetrating your consciousness. Vet visits, exercise, playtime, vacation, etc etc.
After all above is said and done; if you gave it your best shot, then act soon to return to your breeder.