I would say it can happen that you don't "connect' immediately with a pet. I brought home a kitten many years ago, when I was 19-21, that needed a home because northern New England winters are harsh for animals surving in barns in warmer months. The lady who told me about the kitten loved its double paws...turned out, I didn't, but it wasn't because of his paws. It was because I grew up with lap sitting, shoulder riding cats, super personable and rub-a-dub-dub ankle rubbing, super loving cats...heck, I was raised by a cat we had for 16 years until the exterminator sprayed her with poison...and this kitten turned out to be an outdoorsy hunter, not an indoorsy snuggler and we didn't connect in the same way I wanted and thought we would. He also wasn't well socialized and would attack hands after only a few seconds on petting. But that cat would leave a second floor balcony to go hunt, then run at the side of the house, right up the wall to the second story, and leap and twist and turn, flying through the balcony fence rails, onto the balcony to be let back in, then yell until I opened the glass slider for him. I have never seen anything like it...LOL. He answered only to the can opener. Then one day, he curled up one shoulder while my baby boy slept on his daddy's other shpulder ... So sweet..I still have the photo. That cat was phenomenal with my infant son, slept with him to protect him, just like when I was growing up...but he was never a lover kitty although he possessed great love.
I thought I disliked double paws until a feral mom delivered a double pawed kitten many, many feral moms later. This kitten was my baby...his choice...was a lover, lived in my lap or on my chest, ran through the house calling 'mum-mawh, mum-mawh' if I got out of his sight, loved paper balls to play with beside my chair while I worked, loved to watch paper go into the printer, then come out the top, etc. I lost him at 13 months old tragically and I was inconsolable!!! My hubby tried to cheer me up with another tiny kitten, which we fostered and he stayed with us forever, despite having three siblings of my double pawed kitty already. Their mommy let herself out of the kennel at the vet's office between her spay and her vaccinations and was never seen again. Of course, it didn't work to console me. The 'replacement kitty' just required me to work at a new relationship for which I was not ready or seeking.
My point is, if you don't connect now, you may in the future, even if it is acceptance of the new pet for its own special attributes...not because it is the picture of our prior expectations.
I cannot tell you how to handle the situation...only relate my own experiences. I am sure you will figure out what to do...hugs. |