Make grooming enjoyable by starting with massage. When she is worn out and relaxed, hold her and gently massage her shoulders, neck, behind the ears, and chest. Find whatever she likes. Practice touching her all over from ears to paws. Praise her in a soft voice and make the experience relaxing.
Then introduce a comb. Make sure you are not tugging her skin. Pain is often what makes dogs react negatively to grooming. Hold small sections of her hair with one hand and comb with your other hand.
Always praise and reward as you go along. As she grows accustomed to grooming, you can hold the rewards until you are finished.
When Teddy was a pup, I put him on a towel on the counter and gave him a chew while I combed him. This kept him distracted. Eventually he didn't need the chew.
For working on the head, I have learned where I can safely put my hands on the chin to steady the head. I use keywords and phrases like "hold still" or "careful" when I am working around their eyes.
When she tries to bite, say "No bite" in an even voice. Be calm and confident through the whole process and your demeanor will help calm her, eventually.
With Max, I tied grooming to his favorite activity: walking. He knew he had to have his topknot done before he could go for a walk.
For potty training, choose one method and stick to it. If you have the pad out only sometimes, that can be confusing to your pup. Be sure to praise and reward when she gets it right.
Good luck!
__________________ Kristin, Max and Teddy  |