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Originally Posted by jenskwan  I would ask that you please read my words thoroughly before you post a response. I have never suggested that the member not share their story. I am simply asking everyone to play nice. I just want to still believe that we live in a world inhabited by decent human beings. Human beings who should be given the benefit of the doubt and given second chances since everybody makes mistakes.
I’m sorry that I mixed up civility with judges and juries and I don’t think that these forums are a court of law, they were just analogies.
If you are the one who is promoting respect amongst community members I would like to let you know that I have never felt so intimidated by anyone in my life. I have tried to remain neutral and not accuse anyone but every time I open my mouth you have a snide comeback for it. You are using all-caps which in itself appears threatening.
I am sorry for ever starting any conversations here, this environment is just demeaning and I do not need this type of negativity in my life. |
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Originally Posted by jenskwan Thank you for responding courteously. The OP has all the more right to share their side of the story. My disappointment has nothing to do with their original post. All the people below the OP are not sharing their side of the story as they are not involved in the incident. They are all just there making assumptions about the breeder and the incident without knowing the whole story. They are making suggestions on how to take her down and ruin her reputation. It all just seemed really hurtful. To me, there is a difference between offering support and concern versus damning the other party.
I may have seemed quick to draw my own conclusions during the 2 seconds that I have been on this forum. My apologies as I was not at all prepared for the sheer amount of negativity I would receive involving myself in this. I am completely new to this type of community as have since gained perspective from a few peers who are more well versed in online forums. They told me that forums are built for hostile venting, it’s why many people are here. I did not know this because I was expecting the type of people that you are describing, the wonderful, kind, supportive, intelligent, passionate, and friendly types.
I understand the great concern that this community has for the wellbeing of this breed, of course, this is a community is dedicated to Yorkies. I would expect no less from all of the members here. I can assure you that the breeder in question is not unethical in her breeding practices. She made one mistake in a moment of weakness and apparently that is all this community can tolerate.
I am sure that many members will continue to have responses about what I have just said. They will pull out sentences here and there to offer up their negative opinions on my texts. I fear posting anything else since it seems to just turn into an endless destructive cycle of one human being trying to put down another human being. That has been my experience thus far on the YorkieTalk forums and this first impression has left more than a sour taste in my mouth. |
There we have it.....you are saying your friend, the breeder, should be forgiven yet SHE has yet to come here and share her side OR apologize for her mistake made in a "moment of weakness" as you call it. That has been a very long moment of weakness. I believe this incident occurred two years ago?? Feel free to correct me if I am wrong.
As for your comments about your friend being so ethical, if she indeed is breeding 3 - 4 pound yorkies, I have serious reservations. I believe after reading her website that she breeds for "tinies" aka "teacups" the latter of which she is not saying. BUT they are one and the same imho. You asked earlier for comments about her website: How about she stop marketing for the sale of tinies? If I were buying a yorkie, I would run from her website but that is because I know better than to buy from a breeder who breeds tiny yorkies. Sadly, no matter how much we try to educate people, they still look for teacup yorkies.
Makes me sick that there is a demand for them and that there are breeders willing to fill that demand.