Dana, I am so very sorry you are having bad dreams. Please do not take my response as scary, however....
..... I would keep your two boys a little closer until your dreams go away or until you figure out what's going on. I don't want to get "wierd" here, but I firmly believe that dreams are sometimes our subconscious mind trying to tell us something. I am a firm believer in listening to ithat quiet inner voice that warns of impending danger. When we don't listen, sometimes we have dreams to warn us.
Try to think about all of the things going on in your life and WHY you might be afraid of losing Toby.
sending a big