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Originally Posted by jsbart  Thanks for your advice. I can tell you put a lot of thought into it. As I stated before, I've definitely come to the conclusion that what I was doing was wrong and have spent the last two days trying to make amends by showing probably too much attention. However, he has been so much better for the last two days, but I will try to tone it down and not pay him so much attention. I guess I was just trying to atone for my misguided behavior. You know, it's almost like he knows that I've come to an understanding that I was doing more harm than good.
I do want to say that he started behaving this way long before I tried to show him I was in charge. I felt like he became dominant maybe because I showed him more attention than he was used to. When it seemed to get worse, is when I tried to make him submissive which only made him fearful. I was pretty much at the end of ideas as to how to approach the problem. I think I may continue to keep him out of the bathroom. It hasn't seemed to make him feel threatened and in fact he has chosen to be with me more since he can't go to his "cave". I have two other dogs who stay in the house also and hope maybe since they are stable and calm some of their attitude will rub off on him. This may sound crazy but his facial expression has gone from looking mean to looking sweet again. Again, thanks for your thoughts and maybe soon he will be calmer and more relaxed. I think it's just in his nature to be anxious and I'm not expecting miracles--just want us both to be happy. |
Happy to hear his facial expression has changed. I agree with Jeanie's advice. Even Yorkies who come from ideal circumstances can resist being dominated or 'forced' into affection. The trick is to be in charge without being forceful, and to encourage the affection on their terms. Establishing trust first is vital, and a having a routine is very helpful in this department. Then build little rituals on top of that. My boys are 5 and almost 6 years old and they still come up with new little rituals of love.
Be predictable in your behavior, even-keeled. Make life fun.
I believe that my boys became affectionate because we encouraged it rather than forcing it on them. We withdraw attention when the dogs display negative behavior.
The dogs will sit on our laps, cuddle with us, give us kisses because they know we won't hold them prisoner. If they want to leave us to go bark at a squirrel on the deck, or get a toy, or go to their beds, they know they are free to leave.
They also have learned that good behavior and affection will bring rewards like a walk in the park or a meal. They know how to butter us up performing sits or kissing our legs.
Best wishes to you and your little guy.