[joyce evans]

Originally Posted by 107barney

I actually enjoy reading the forum. I like people of all walks of life so the short blips of things others find rude don't really bother me. There are really only two things that bug me here:

1. People tell other people how to post by passive aggressively informing the OP that the person responding is "harsh" or a "bully". Example: OP posts and asks "Should I take my dog to the vet, he's had explosive diarrhea for four days and is laying in a corner half alive" Person A responds by saying "you need a vet, RIGHT NOW" and then Person B comes along and says "Have you tried a teaspoon of pumpkin?" and Person A comes back and says "I'm sorry, pumpkin isn't going to help, OP dog needs a vet NOW" and Person B says "pumpkin works for me" and person A feels again he/she must come back to impress STRONGLY upon the OP that a VET and NOT PUMPKIN is needed in this situation because perhaps Person A has lived this and wants to tell OP that a "stitch in time saves nine" and Person A has to go around person B being upset about their idea of pumpkin being "dissed" by the "bully". Then Person C, D, and E happen to agree with Person A. Person F, G, and H agree with person B. Person I, J, K and maybe even L offer prayers and they don't get into the whole pumpkin vs. vet debate. Then somehow person M says that the OP is being made to feel like a bad owner. Then the OP starts to believe he/she is being bullied for being a bad owner. Person N comes along and says NO NO NO you are not a bad owner, you are a good mommy. Persons O, P, and Q agree with the whole "you're a good mommy" thing. Person S, T, and U are pissed off and plead with the other members of the alphabet to please get back on task because the OP needs help. Finally, persons V, W, and X report the thread. Y asks why just as Wylie's Mom turns the locks. What kind of help did we all give????? Now none of us will ever know whether Yorkie with Explosive Diarrhea Lying in a Corner Half Alive got to the vet. Maybe the pumpkin worked??

2. People try to shut down the conversation when they don't like it (e.g. dog food advisor threads where person A posts "i love DFA" and person B says "OMG he's a dentist not a real DFA" and person A jumps in and says "People can like DFA if they want" and then person B says "They can, but it's not a good source of info" and then person A says to person B "please stop, you've posted your opinion" and person B responds with "so did you" and then it goes round and round.

Those are my only two beefs with this place.

I agree especially with number 1 but I want to add that the OP is usually gone way before I, j, k... and the thread keeps going and going. I'm hoping the prayers worked but only the good lord knows! I hate reading a thread where there is a sick or injured pup and we never know what happened to it because the OP opted out for what ever reason. I know that the truth hurts sometimes (meaning what the OP was told) but I also feel we should all think more about that sick or injured animal before we choose our words. Advising someone to take their dog to the vet should never offend anyone. In my opinion they should have done that instead of jumping on a computer. I do believe that some do it in an attempt to save money which is fine when the situation is not critical. Bickering between members really makes the forum look bad and in some cases if I were the OP I would have left to. Not out of fear. When the responders start making it all about themselves and their ego instead of the situation at hand then it gets really silly. There really is a pattern to all the madness which led to this thread. I'm glad it came up!