A more definite scenario seems to be developing. Crystal comes into me around 10/11pm for a few hours and thats very much it. Gone are the times where once she used to paw at my door eagerly in the morning for entry - now silence. When her mom's out she just sleeps on her bed, never seeks me out as she once did.
I suppose in contrast I'm pretty boring just now, but my future portability may not be greatly improved I've been told this morning. My wife and I have discussed this and definitely feel I should get a breed more suited to my change of circumstance, where a more spiritual and less complicated companion would be better? I'm also going to get a House-boat on the Norfolk Broads. As my wife can't stand water, it seems a companion each would suit for a changing environ at least in the summer and week-end breaks.
I've tried very hard with Crystal, perhaps too hard who knows, but maybe events will provide a natural solution for us all.
So I'm off this afternoon to familiarize myself with the long haired mini dachshund I referred to earlier - and this time I'm seeking a boy...
Thanks everyone for your help and comments
Martin