[FirstYorkie]

Lisasyorkies - From what I've read, you need to make your husband the keeper of all the goodies. Let your husband feed him. Let your husband give him the new toys. Let your husband give him lots of treats. Praise him heavily anytime he is close to your husband. If it was me, I'd have my husband carry treats in his pocket all the time. I'd tell my husband to give Charlie treats anytime Charlie comes close to him. Your husband can gradually expand his expectations of how close Charlie has to come OR for how long, before he gives a treat.

As far as the going rigid and then turning and growling when put down, I think Charlie is clearly telling you guys that he isn't ready for your husband to pick him up. It doesn't matter why. It only matters that he's not ready. A dog has three options when he's frightened - he can flee (not possible when he's being held), he can fight (be glad he's not choosing that option) or he can freeze. Once he's put down, he's secure enough to choose the fighting back option.

I'd tell your husband NOT to pick him up until Charlie acts like he's ready. It's okay to let Charlie set the pace on this one - HE's the one with bad background.