I have a friend who is a therapist,and tell me that being polite and direct and restateing what you view as occurring is like cryptonite to a lot of these folks. Example " excuse me joe, I've noticed you seem to be quite angry. Are you angry at me because I needed this job and was hired by ( boss)? 9 out of ten in my experience back down when done assertively but not aggressively. Unless what you mean by " nasty" is over the top. If he is verbally abusive, belittles you, or menaces IMHO it is time to take action and also document every occurance with a notebook dated and time and details in case thiscguycgets fired and drags you into a wrongfully termination suit. Excuse typos my iPod autocorrects. |