You guys are the best
I don't feel so much like the CRAZY dog lady after reading your responses.
I think what threw me was that Cali's regular ver I have know for eons, this dermatology vet I had never met before, so I was not comfortable letting them take her away from me. I have high standards about how my dog is treated by anyone. Although I wanted his expertise maybe he was just too cocky for my liking, but something just was not comfortable. It was like he felt totally I charge - did the feminist in me rear it's ugly head? - not sure, but when he made the condescending crack about what would I do.....well golly, I was rather proud of myself afterwards that I had not said something I regretted, but he got the message.
By the time I got home my regular vet was calling to see how it went. In addition to the prescriptions she wanted to know if I thought he was good. He is pretty much the only derm vet in my area, so I had to think a out it. He did. Or blow me off - I'm sure he has seen much worse than Cali's clacking skin, and I did feel he was competent and he answered all do my questions well.
So the bottom line is - I feel I am the only advocate Cali has and she is a dependent little animal. Most would not understand she is the light of my life!
So I will always be protective of her, but up it seems to me that a vet would get that.
When I was I medical school I remember a tough old instructor telling me one day when could not find anything wrong with a baby that had been brought into the ER, that I needed to keep looking, because no one knows there kid better than their mom and if she says something is wrong I better respect that.
So maybe it was all out respect and protection, and feeling like the vet should understand that.