Try to remember that the last thing your boyfriend wanted to happen was for your pup to die in that manner, yes he was reckless and I don't blame you for being upset, angry and hurt, but in the end it was an accident even though it shouldn't have happened.
If you want I will say "what kind of stupid arsehole is so stupid to not safely secure such little dogs"...I will and I agree with you, but obviously he didn't know better because the last thing he wanted was for that to happen.
As for your grieving take all the time you need and do it your way...if anyone has anything to say, walk away...you have a right to these feelings and to the time it takes to work them out. Some people don't understand the level of attachment to a dear sweet pet...but I do. I'm sure they are probably trying to say things to help but really they are just hurting you more by saying stupid things...
My son had a service dog (Navy) he worked on ships, he sat, he was trained like a human....but one day his girlfriend was playing fetch the ball with him...had him all wound up without commands....she meant well....but she threw the ball and it went toward the main road and this poor pup was killed....stupidly and recklessly, but she didn't mean for it to happen...he was so upset and working through the various emotions...and some folks told him "Jay its a dog cut her some slack she didn't mean it etc".....he was trying so hard to forget and forgive but the more people said things...and tried to help the worse he felt...my kids are like me, they love a 100%, animal or human we give all....
So I do know how you feel and I truly hope you take the time you need for you...this was your baby and you deserve atleast the peace to grieve for him in your own way...
I'm so sorry this has happened to your baby and for you...the bad mind movies will soon give way to happy memories, I promise.
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