It doesn't sound nice
I'm sorry your family is driving you crazy.
At the end of the day, you will be the one caring for your little girl so what the rest say doesn't really matter.
She is your baby and you have the last word. Just do what you think is best for her
The grooming will get better. I groom both of my dogs at home and with the time it becomes easier. And every day you will learn a bit more when grooming yourself
Both of the dogs are 'mine'
Even-though I live with my BF and he sometimes feed them or takes them out. I'm the one doing everything else. So when it comes to making decisions for the dogs, I'm the one who makes them.