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Originally Posted by capt_noonie  I also made something for my bff when she got married. I was s**t or at the time so I took her logo from the invites and hand embroidered it on a cross stitch fabric and made a wedding album cover covered in silk in her wedding colors and put the embroidery on it. Took a lot of time but didn't cost much. She teared up when she opened it |
That is an AWESOME idea!!!
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Originally Posted by Yorkiemom1 
Gosh....I tend to agree with this thought process......I would have really been offended if my brother had gotten upset with me for not going thru his agent, then finding out WHY it was so important in his mind, for me to use his agent....KICK BACKS AND FREEBIES!!!!! How tacky, to say the least.....I would attend his wedding, I would give him a gift card for dinner at his favorite place to eat, and that would be the extent of my financial involvemnt in that wedding!
All I can say is I have reached an age where our biggest expense is sending flowers to funerals! I can not even get my mind wrapped around spending thousands of dollars to go flying off into the wild blue yonder, for a wedding! Unless I was absolutely "joined at the hip" close to the bride or groom, I really do think that is expecting people to spend way toooooooo much money, especially with the economy as bad as it is. And if they did opt to attend, as far as I am concerned, their gift to me would be their devotion to our relationship and absolutely NO additional money should be expected to be spent on a gift! |
I kind of thought the same thing, that us going to take part in their day would be the gift. But I didn't realize so many people do give, and expect to recieve, gifts for destination weddings. I don't want to be the only one who doesn't give them a gift.
I tried to explain to my brother that we spent a lot of money going to Africa, and didn't have the extra money to go to his wedding so it was a big deal to save as much as we could. I think he looks at us and thinks, if we can afford to go to Africa, why can't we afford Mexico because it's way cheaper??? Well, it's not exactly something we're advertising, but we want to have a baby. Going to Africa was going to be our "last hurrah!" before settling down to have a family. It's something we dreamed of doing, and we made it happen. I'm not pregnant yet, but we're trying, and we'll be faced with me having a year off work on maternity leave, and trying to save up money to supplement that as well. But we don't want to tell everyone that, not our siblings or parents, and we don't want to put our lives on hold just so we can make sure everyone else is happy. We are still going, just a little bit more cheaply. We could have gone a LOT cheaper and not stayed at the same resort, but we wanted to show we are there for his wedding, for our family, to be with everyone to celebrate. I didn't want to be difficult about it. He tells me to my face that it's fine, but he has complained to our mom about it, and tried to tell her we'll be spending wayyyyy more money in the end, which makes no sense. Ugh.