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Originally Posted by capt_noonie  I agree!
One of my friends works for a stationery company and her specialty is wedding invitations. We had a conversation before about destination weddings, and me not knowing a lot about wedding ettiquette asked, Why would anyone have a destination wedding? That cost so much money for people to get there! She said that's the point. They DON'T want a bunch of people going, but they still feel obligated to invite them.
I also find it very odd (saying it nicely) that he didn't even put out formal invitations. Weddings are one of the FEW things that I think you cannot do without formal invites. the fact that he did it the "free" way was tacky in it of itself. He's just trying to invite as many people as he can so he can get free stuff. |
Gosh....I tend to agree with this thought process......I would have really been offended if my brother had gotten upset with me for not going thru his agent, then finding out WHY it was so important in his mind, for me to use his agent....KICK BACKS AND FREEBIES!!!!! How tacky, to say the least.....I would attend his wedding, I would give him a gift card for dinner at his favorite place to eat, and that would be the extent of my financial involvemnt in that wedding!
All I can say is I have reached an age where our biggest expense is sending flowers to funerals! I can not even get my mind wrapped around spending thousands of dollars to go flying off into the wild blue yonder, for a wedding! Unless I was absolutely "joined at the hip" close to the bride or groom, I really do think that is expecting people to spend way toooooooo much money, especially with the economy as bad as it is. And if they did opt to attend, as far as I am concerned, their gift to me would be their devotion to our relationship and absolutely NO additional money should be expected to be spent on a gift!