The more I go to weddings and hear about wedding drama, the more I am happy with my decision to never get married. Weddings are supposed to be a happy occasion, yet many think it gives them a free for all to be greedy, mean, thoughtless, etc.
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Originally Posted by linz06  I feel on the fence about the bridal shower for my cousin. In the first place, when they announced they were getting married and it would be in New Orleans, a few of our family members were telling me they were excited and saving up to go, and wanted me to let them know when it was. I told my cousin this, and she told me to tell them they can't come. It came up again at Christmas and I did NOT feel comfortable telling them "Sorry, she said you're not invited" so I kind of just said it's in September but they hadn't set a date yet, and I didn't really know any other details. Nobody asked again, and I think when no invitations came, they realized they are not invited to the wedding. I feel like it might be tacky now to throw a shower in which the whole purpose is "showering with gifts" and invite the family (she doesn't really have many friends) when they are not allowed to come to the wedding itself. She lives about 4 hours from our closest family, and she is a single mom of 3, so everyone would need to travel down there for the shower as well. So I may end up throwing a shower where nobody shows up, or where some people feel obligated to show up but think it's in bad taste.
In the beginning she told me she didn't want to do a "real" wedding and doesn't care about any of that stuff, but lately changed her mind and said maybe she DOES want to have a bridal shower. I'm not sure where to go with this. |
If no one gets to go to her wedding, when people clearly showed they WANTED to go, she doesn't get a shower.
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Originally Posted by linz06 So this is sort of in the same category, but another friend of my husband's is getting married this summer, and their invitation had instructions to RSVP at a website. My husband went to that website and it was down or something was not working and he couldn't RSVP. So last night, he sent his friend a message saying "I can't get your website to work but just wanted to let you know we won't be able to make it to the wedding" (It's on the coast - about a 12 hour drive one-way or a very expensive flight, and we had to pick family weddings first). His friend replied "Scott, over 150 people have RSVP'd through the website. My 98 year old grandmother could do it. I have faith in you." and then 15 minutes later, before my husband even received the first message, he wrote another saying "Just a fair warning, I am really pissed off with all of this wedding stuff and if you are going to ask stupid questions, you will be treated accordingly"  My husband wrote back "Sorry, we will not be able to make it to the wedding." but he was fuming. That was pretty rude of his friend! We were planning to send a card and a gift with some other friends who are attending, but I really do not want to send a gift after being treated like that. Should I just let it go and spend the money, or just simply send a card with our congratulations?
Weddings just make everyone crazy I guess  |
Your DH's friend never had the thought cross his mind that maybe the server was down? That was SO rude of him to reply like that.