I feel on the fence about the bridal shower for my cousin. In the first place, when they announced they were getting married and it would be in New Orleans, a few of our family members were telling me they were excited and saving up to go, and wanted me to let them know when it was. I told my cousin this, and she told me to tell them they can't come. It came up again at Christmas and I did NOT feel comfortable telling them "Sorry, she said you're not invited" so I kind of just said it's in September but they hadn't set a date yet, and I didn't really know any other details. Nobody asked again, and I think when no invitations came, they realized they are not invited to the wedding. I feel like it might be tacky now to throw a shower in which the whole purpose is "showering with gifts" and invite the family (she doesn't really have many friends) when they are not allowed to come to the wedding itself. She lives about 4 hours from our closest family, and she is a single mom of 3, so everyone would need to travel down there for the shower as well. So I may end up throwing a shower where nobody shows up, or where some people feel obligated to show up but think it's in bad taste.
In the beginning she told me she didn't want to do a "real" wedding and doesn't care about any of that stuff, but lately changed her mind and said maybe she DOES want to have a bridal shower. I'm not sure where to go with this.
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