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Originally Posted by yorkietalkjilly

No, it teaches one to tell the truth under oath and be mature enough to live with the consequences. If Ms. Deen is for real, she will take her lumps for using such vile language in her public work life around employees (that must have been a lovely work environment!), make amends in any way she can with the people she has so offended, deal with the lawsuit, make necessary changes in her life and rebuild the losses she suffers where she can. If she's genuine in her changes, the majority of people will forgive and forget in time. The word she used is deeply hurtful to the very soul black people when used so cavalierly in jokes, stories or condescendingly by white people and will always be a wedge of hard feelings and pain anytime it is used this way. I'm sure when Paula Deen testified to using such language, she and her handlers was well aware of what was about to happen to her career and even her personal life. She seems a very business and media savvy lady who has lived much of her life in public and relied on that public for her wealth and will no doubt make every effort to atone publicly often and hopefully in time the media and social media will let it die - but certainly not until they have ridden the issue for every headline possible. But she'll need to be genuine in her efforts to change her image now or she won't get very far in any public relations campaign to remake her image or the public will see right through her. Any phoniness now will come glaring through.

The n word is used a lot by older southern people. My Grandmothers aunt who raised her would occasionally use it but not in a necessary terrible way just as if some one would say black person she would say the n word it was just how she was raised. She was anything from a terrible person though. She married her husband and took in all of his kids and was there mother and took in my Grandmother and her Brother and did amazing things and touched many lives. I also think if people don't want to be called a certain name they should also not call each other a certain name.