Rebuild Determination
"I can make mistakes. I don't have to be perfect."
"I will fail. It is inevitable. I need to take it in stride and get back on track. Each success will have several failures."
"I am in control. Even if I slip in my commitment, it was a decision I made. I may feel out of control and everything is hopeless, but it is not true. I am in control."
"So what, this is not the end of the world. It is a minor thing. Everyone makes mistakes. I don't always fail. I will decide what I am going to do about this. "
Visualize yourself coming out of the depression and being happy getting back on track.
Review a list of the things at which you have been successful.
Spiritual Encouragement
"I have so much for which to be thankful."
"I will grow through this pain. I am suffering. I do feel hurt. But I am coming out of it. There is a lesson in this. This pain is making me stronger."
Rebuilding Determination
Failure can challenge us to try again or smash our self-worth. It can create determination or erode what resolve we have. We can use the failure to dig into our character and pull out strength, or lose all hope.
The easy way is to give up. We stop trying so we won't get hurt again. All of your energy is sapped. We feel hopeless. But it is at this very point where victory is won. This is the point of faith. When all hope is gone, we can draw on the deepest strength and use it to build the determination to try again.
The effect of failure distorts our thinking. It is like entering a dark tunnel. We can't see our goals or even remember why they were important. We tell ourselves, "so what, it never really mattered." But, we are lying to ourselves.
Don't let yourself get away with it. Remind yourself of the value of your goals. Build desire and enthusiasm. Tell yourself why it is important. Don't get mad at you, get mad at the behavior. Where is your fighting spirit? Are you going to sit back and take it? Are you going to let a stupid little failure push you around? You're tougher than that!
Write out your goals and what you want to accomplish. Enthuse yourself about your goals by visualizing you achieving them. Make achieving them feel pleasurable. See the things that will tempt you from your goals and create a feeling of revulsion as you think of them. Spend time building the desire to achieve.
We spend so much of our life on the little useless details. We easily become sidetracked. We forget what our goals are and lose enthusiasm. Put your energy toward what is important. You need to invest time in encouraging yourself to move forward. When you feel like giving up, remember where you are going and why you are going there. |