First, let me start out by saying it was NOT condescending. I even said as much in the immediate post in case anyone took it the wrong way. The only point I was trying to get across is that I feel we are trying to revive the past and that can't happen. How many times in our own lives have we thought things were better in the past, we've tried to get it back, and then it just ends up being worse?
To me, it feels like a lot of people are saying that they don't want to join the GEs because of X or Y. And it also makes me feel that I, along with everyone else who has enjoyed the last 2-3 GEs (
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Originally Posted by Lil Sis  I will say it has been the past year that it has totaly gone down hill... |
)...that we have wasted our time doing it and that
we are the problem. I think it goes further back than 1 year.
But now, after a couple of years of it, people have held it in for so long that they're finally bursting. I can't believe how passionate this has gotten. I wish that people had spoken up ages ago when it first bothered them instead of waiting.
There's been so much lack of communication on this forum, that passions boil.
So, lets sit back and decide what is not working.
1. The lack of a cap
2. Babytalk
3. Clues
4. Drama
Let's chat about some things that we can bring in the next GE and see how it works.
1. Even if it's not official, we could always do a trial cap and see how it goes. Of all the Secret Santas, etc that I've done, there has always been a range. I.e., $40-$50, $75-$100. No minimum and no cap.
2. Babytalk - I think too many members enjoy doing this and I don't feel like we can say that we should eliminiate this. But we can say if you don't like doing it, don't force yourself to do it. I don't. Others don't. So don't feel like you have to either.
3. Clues - Totally not necessary. Last GE not everyone gave them. Totally fine. I doubt I'll be giving many in the next GE because I suck at it, HA HA
4. Drama - I guess I've been lucky because there was zero drama in my first GE and only 1 thing in the last. And that turned out to NOT be an issue, in the end. Unless I missed something. But drama works 2+ ways so if we all keep this in mind and make it a drama-free zone, it could go smoothly, even with tons of people participating.
For those that participate in other forums, what rules do they have in place and that works for the vast majority of the group?