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She's just asserting herself to try to draw her boundaries for you but if you go ahead and cross those, she senses she really isn't in a strong position and capitulates and curries favor with you. Doesn't stop her from initially trying to muscle you at first and see if she can have her way, make you hesitate and show some reluctance to move her from her position. I would imagine your husband has spoiled her but that she senses he's really the stronger leader in the family and she's going to be protective of him like lesser pack animals do of the alpha male in a dog pack.

Just take the bull by the horns, become a loving teacher, start NILIF and lots of training. Getting a bossy dog working training and learning and achieving will get them focused on other things and get her busy learning and achieving and getting lots of praise/rewards from you for her work. In the meantime, one of the benefits of obedience training is a well-behaved dog that doesn't have real behavior issues. Why not? Because they have learned to respect you, learned to obey your commands by rote and learned that it's more fun to keep you happy with them than unhappy. Dogs are not dumb and as soon as you show them how they please you by obeying your commands and you show a great deal of pleasure in them for learning their commands and doing them, they love the whole training thing and will beg you to train them often! Keep it loving, be very, very patient, do not punish her if she gets anything wrong or use aversives and keep the training a fun game and you will have a happy, upbeat and submissive dog who respects you way too much to ever growl at you again.