Originally Posted by Yorkiemom1  This a perfect sad example of exactly how BOTH sides can go away with the wrong impression! The OP has fled, because she felt attacked....after I read her post, I fled, speechless, becuase I felt useless to her...Even though I know very well what "mentor" means and is, I dont consider myself "WELL KNOWN", and I was not sure who I needed to be on a good standing with, and I certainly do not know how to text stuff, and I frankly resented her feeling her time was more harried and important than mine....so I just ducked my head, cried a tear because I have never really felt usless until now, and shuffled away to lick my hurt feelings. OP feels attacked because she used a word in a context none of us are familiar with...."mentor" as information seeker, rather than as someone who teaches, supports, and coaches.....and other YT members were taken aback by a poster who quickly, almost proudly, admits she is too busy to research and seek out the vast wealth of knowledge in different sections on this site, and implies she wants to skip over the search out and seek effort and just have it given to her, or allow her to "pick our brains", which can be rather insulting to us. So, that is it in a nut shell....and now, for all the wrong reasons, another one leaves with feelings of resentment, and in spite of the offers of help from some members, she left anyway.....regardless of the offers of help, regardless of the explanations of why some things were said, regardless of the apologies from people that sincerely were not attacking the poster.....she left anyway. Just goes to show, misunderstandings of intentions or meanings or desires, viewed from BOTH sides, caused by BOTH sides, felt by BOTH sides, are often just unavoidable....and these feelings as experienced by BOTH sides, by everyone, are valid and real. And now, lets see how many members start attacking each other, because they too, have misunderstood a feeling or a meaning or a belief, and the need to criticize and chastise and place blame for the exit.....There is no blame to be placed...just misunderstandings. As adults, we will get over it...... |