[bchgirl]

Woo boy ytirks27, you didn't say it was a loaded question....

I've been married 23 years and we've been there done that so to speak. We went to marriage counseling and it's dang hard let me tell ya. There were very few sessions that I left feeling good about. It works only if you WANT it to work, and he has to want that too.This is the hard part, cause what you're thinking is I'm not happy, but you may learn he isn't either. Some of that honesty is going feel like a knife, sweetie. Will it make you feel all giggy, excited, heart pumping cause he's in the room (like it did when you were dating), sorry no.

I had a hard time putting my expressions into words with dh. I found it worked better for me to write them, some of those letters took hours to write, but I got the words out.

I could write a book literally on this subject. The fix was not instant by any means and there were reasons we got where we were. You're gonna have to talk to him, he may be surprised you feel this way (some are), or he may not.
It's a hard topic.

We made the decision we made because there was alot of good still there, there were so many things we achieved together, our daughter (who we both preferred to not to go through the divorce thing), and a bunch of other reasons. Essentially it may come down to...are you better off with him or without him.

Best wishes. I really hope everything works out for you.