[Clyde_Dexter]

Something happened today .. and after seriously trying to figure out who I should go talk to about this situation ... the only place I wanted to come to for advice was here ...

My friend, of ten years, lost her mother today. Her mother had a passion for horses, and while carting with one today ... the horse bolted and crashed the cart into the tree ...

My friend and I met when we were eight years old and were almost completely inseparable. However, by the time we reached 15 to 17 we kind grew apart ... and now she and I hardly ever talk. We don't have any negative feelings toward each other ... but we have just grown apart.

My friend is a very private person ... extremely private and she hates showing emotions in front of anyone. My mind is telling me that she would not be happy about me calling her in this very tragic time ... but my heart is telling me that it would be completely inappropriate and rude to reach out to her through email or any other form of electronic communication.

I'm really conflicted as to what I should do. I know in my heart I should call her, but I don't want to upset her ... I just don't want to intrude on this very sensitive time in her life...

I'm at a loss as to what I should do.