Welcome to YT. Your's is a wonderful story that truly warms the heart. I don't really have any great advice to give you, you're already doing the right things. I'm so glad that you've found each other. I'm sure that some others on here will be able to offer some helpful suggestions. Please be sure to keep us updated on how you're both doing.
I just want to tell you again how heartwarming it is to know that there are still people like you out there and how happy we are that Rufus has found someone to love him.
Kathy, Tango and Gypsy