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Originally Posted by Ldyrev1  It appears to me that you do care very much for your Mia. I'm believe you are looking for help in providing Mia what she needs and still have her in your life and I applaud you for this.
I was wondering if there might be a doggy daycare in your area where Mia could spend her days with other dogs and people and receive attention that you are not able to provide during the daytime. I know a lot of people have the same situation that you have in that they just can't be home for their pets during the day and they take their dogs to a daycare designed to meet that need and help your pup enjoy her day and still be able to enjoy her owner in the evening. These people praise all the attention and care their pets receive. I would suggest that the first thing to do would be to find a place like this that can provide care and attention for your pet during the day then go about working on behaviors at home in a way that is truly positive for everyone. If you can find a solution to address the hours you are away, the rest will come with positive reinforcement. Mia wants only to make you happy.
I do suggest however that you talk again with your fiance about your devoted Mia and allowing her to share your bed. Any reason she can't sleep with you on your side of the bed? It's difficult enough for Mia to learn to live with someone new who has different habits and patterns that she is not familiar with, if Mia receives the same level or very closely to that level of care that you had provided her in your prior living arrangements I am certain that Mia's ability to adapt to the other changes in her life would be much easier for her to adapt to.
Did you really mean to say "the relationship is going to end because of Mia"??? I find this extremely sad. That someone who says they love you would be so totally unbending if they understood your love for this pup and this pup's love for you. Everyone makes sacrifices when they begin new relationships but it is so much easier for the people in your pups life to make adjustments than for your pup to have to feel such extreem separation anxiety from the person she has loved with her whole heart for the last four years. I hope this is something you and your fiance can work out so that your Mia isn't the one who suffers. I wish you the best of luck in your new relationship, and pray that Mia's relationship with you is not what you end up sacrificing. I pray for peace in all your relationships. Blessings! |
oh no no no I meant to say would not. It's not anything like a deal breaker or causing major major issues in the relationship. I'm just worried that given her whining has become worse in the last couple of days, both working long hours, stressed out and work and sleep deprived might end up in a dumb fight for no reason. I do appreciate people understanding that I do love little Mia and want her to adjust to the new home that's all. I do see what everyone is saying and will refrain from smacking her anymore and just try other approaches. As i'm typing this she's running around the house playing with me getting her some exercise she needs. I do love the little pup and want nothing but the best for her. We'll see how the next couple of days go.