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Originally Posted by Connie  I am also a survivor of domestic violence and lived that life for 8 long, grueling years. I do believe, if I hadn't gotten out when I did, I would have ended up dead. I can't imagine anyone, after getting out of the relationship, ever going back. These creeps don't change...they promise it will never happen again, but it always does. When I went through this, there was not the public awareness that there is now. I truly thought that I had to live with it...I didn't even know I had the option to call the police. I was so ashamed and felt I had to keep it a secret, though people knew from seeing all the bruises. My heart breaks for anyone going through violence like this. There is no defending oneself against a raging, crazed man. I survived it, but have permanent aches and pains as a result of those beatings and torture. |
Hugs to you. I am sure it is not easy sharing this and thank you for being such a role model and an advocate now.
From what I have learned from classes is that just about anyone can get sucked into this because it is a very slow process and an abuser can be very clever, starting with hearts and flowers, isolation, monopolization, exhaustion, and total compliance. (Something like that) I believe I read it takes at least 6 or 7 cycles of abuse for the victim to want to get out. So sad. And, others (like me before) didn't understand the dynamics of entrapment, so we think they are crazy for staying in the relationship. I really do believe that education is the key here.