[lovespandp]

Why wouldn’t you give the accurate portrait of who is was..? I think you are making excuses for him- Once again you are blaming yourself. Those aren’t flaws he has- its laziness. You having to remind him to shower… that’s a flaw? Doing 95 % of the work is a flaw? Him not taking responsibility for him..that’s a flaw? Him looking at Luma’s pee pad- knowing it needs to be changed and not changing it.. that’s a flaw?? No- you are very blind in this. You are making big time excuses for him- You really need to get your self esteem up, and work on yourself- if not he will continue to bring you down. How are you hard on him? He doesn’t do anything and gets away with it? He isn’t going to change because he has been like this for 5 years- of course he will tell you everything you want to hear today/ last night… Girl 5 years down the road when he hasn’t changed and you are still doing 95% of the work you will be sick of it- You wanted mature advice- women who have been there done that- you get tons of advice, a handful of women have told you how it will be and you still make excuses for him—Not good- I will pray that you get the strength to stand up for yourself and get that self esteem that you are lacking. You should never settle for that- You can be so much happier in your life-