I love that YT has such passionate Yorkie lovers and such experienced breeders, but I have to say, i have read so very many threads old and new where I have been quite shocked at the aggression.
These seem to be the threads however that receive most posts and go on forever and in many cases I feel sorry for the poster who has asked an honest question and are so obviously trying to do what is best for the pup they have.
It is very easy to take out our own frustrations on others on a forum and as some of you have said you have made mistakes yourselves, but that doesn't mean you do not entirely love your sick, scruffy, limpy and in my case allergic and baldy wee bundle of joy.
I believe that a few senior members do not realise how aggressive or hostile their posts appear until later and I believe some of those members have made new years resolutions to be more supportive and careful about what they post, I have definitely seen much more welcoming posts for new tiny baby moms since the start of the year.
It is very difficult to express empathy and real understanding in writing and blunt short questions come across as uncaring.
When I have written something I always read it back at least twice before posting, the first time I ask myself would I say this directly to a person who was in the room with me? The second time I try to think about how I would feel if what I had written was given to me as an answer if the answers are
No I would not say that out loud to someone or I might feel bad if I got that reply, then I delete instead of posting. (even in a post this long) but I still get the satisfaction of feeling I have vented even if I didn't post what I decided could hurt someones feelings.
Thank you for starting this thread, I do believe that many people with pups or dogs they love leave the forum very quickly because they feel picked on and those dogs could possibly suffer without the knowledge that this forum holds. |