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Originally Posted by RileyDC  Okay.... That is just FILTHY GROSS!!!!
I AGREE with brezofleur: "Relationships should absolutely be 50/50. Maybe 55/45, but definitely not 80/20 and god forbid 90/10."
You are not going to change him. Especially if you are getting that type of response from him when you try and talk to him about it. It’s True! What do you want him to say?? This is who he is. I don’t think it is a matter of Growing Up! This is what he is used to. This is how he was raised.
It is as if you have reached a fork in the road… which way do you choose to go? If you truly believe that he is your lazy, messy soulmate and you decide to accept him then you need to accept that this is what You have chosen… what you are signing up for. Also, if this is what you chose, then you shouldn’t be talking about it in any bad way in the future. That just isn’t fair to him.
A co-worker of mine is going through something similar.
It has started affecting other things between them and as much as she Loves him, she literallydriv Dreads coming home to the point where she Immediately gets thrown into a bad mood when she sees his car in the eway. Sad!
I think you have got a lot of good advice here… - I do wish you luck with whatever you decide. |
This was me...I literally put the car in reverse and left...he was home, I dont want to be there...knew a fight was waiting for me, for whatever reason!
Good luck in whatever you decide!