Hey I have had a thought in the past and whose to say I won't do it in the future! LOL My husbands wallet squeaks when he opens it.... I often joke that every once in awhile, I WD40 it (oil it so it won't squeak! LOL) Well.... whenever he lets things start to go, I just say to him, "Its ok if you don't want to mow the lawn. I'll just call TruGreen, they charge about $70, I think, to mow the lawn." BOOM... mowed the next day! haha Now Im talking about getting a housekeeper, it's about $80, 2x a month. Suddenly he *FOUND* where we keep the broom, and even cleaned the bathroom! AMAZING!
Works for the dump runs to, "hey, there is trash pickup here, private of course, I think it's 1 day a week for $40 a month, would that be better than you taking the trash to the dump yourself?" **BOOM** Trailer loaded, trash taken to dump! This works so much better than yelling, lecturing, crying, getting frustrated, fighting with him!
Just tell Tony that you'll hire a cleaning company 1-2x a month so the house can at least maintain a minimal standard of clean that makes you happy. Sounds to me (like my husband) that he might start lifting fingers instead of opening his squeaky wallet)! Trust me, you can hire someone to do ANYTHING.... just google a price (or make one up!) and tell him you were thinking you would do that because you really need the help!